Tips to Help You in Overcoming Low Self Esteem
Overcoming low self esteem is essential for your self improvement and success. The steps outlined here will help you in building self esteem.
- What is your opinion about yourself?
Do not worry about what others think of you. The most important thing that matters is- what you think about yourself. Be aware of your feelings and needs. Don’t hurt your feelings. Be your own friend.
There is no value judgment more important to man- no factor more decisive in his psychological development and motivation- than the estimate he passes on himself
- Nathaniel Branden
- List out your positive aspects
When your self esteem is low, you become an expert in pointing out what is wrong with you rather than identifying what is right. It is easier to make a quick list of your weaknesses or deficiencies and a lot harder to list out your positive aspects- talents, strengths and skills. Make a list of both. Tuck that list of negative aspects away somewhere for future use. Keep your list of positive qualities handy. Keep reading them when ever you find time.
- Don’t blame yourself
When your self esteem is low, even a small mistake committed by you seems very big and you tend to blame yourself. You tend to think that you are the reason for any and every bad thing happening around you. If you fill your mind with self blame thoughts, you will feel incompetent. It prevents you from doing what you are capable of, since you already failed in your mind.
- Give credit to yourself
Any good thing you did or things, small or big, you achieved may escape your mind. Don’t dismiss them as trivial. At the end of the day, write down about any situation that improved because of you.
- Try to be in good company
Try to be in the company of inspired, motivated and successful people.
- Study about successful people
It will inspire you and drive away negative thoughts from your mind.
- Don't Sulk
Don’t sulk that nobody talks to you or cares for you. Make a habit of giving first- plenty will come back to you. If someone’s actions made a positive impact on your life, show your gratitude or appreciation liberally.
- What to Avoid in overcoming low self esteem
- Avoid uninspiring people and circumstances who don’t cheer you up.
- Avoid the company of people with negative attitudes. They try to inflict similar thoughts on people around them. Surround yourself by winners. Similarly, if your attitudes are negative, people try to avoid you.
- Avoid seeing and listening to negative aspects in the society such as crime, terrorism, accidents, unemployment etc.. Repeated bombardment of such news impacts your mind negatively. You keep thinking of such things all the time. Remember, you
are what you think all day.
- Keep a watch on what type of thoughts are going into your mind. Negative thoughts try to dominate. You need to literally throw them out.
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
- When you are angry or frustrated of yourself because, a few of your wants are not fulfilled, focus your attention on what you have- which many others are not fortunate enough to have.
I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet.
- Don’t blame others for what you are- your parents, friends, circumstances etc. What or where you are today is the result of your thoughts and actions in the past. Don’t blame yourself either. Take the responsibility of your life, learn from the
past and move on.
- The best investment is- invest in yourself.
- There are no short cuts or quick fix solutions to real success. Real success takes time, effort, discipline and patience. You may not see immediate results for your efforts. They come slowly and steadily. But their effect is permanent.
- Don’t get mad at yourself when you feel low- just know that it will pass.
- You are your topmost priority. Others or their needs come next to you. Don’t be afraid of conflicts, rejection or loss of approval. You can’t please everybody. Don’t even try it.
- Don’t be scared of criticism. Even the best person gets it.
These steps will surely help you in overcoming low self esteem. Please follow them sincerely. You need to believe in what you do and don't give up until you succeed in overcoming low self esteem.
For some more practical ideas to help you in overcoming low self esteem, here is a great ebook
Self Esteem Secrets. This ebook has secrets that will help you understand why you suffer from low self-esteem and give you the keys to overcome it.
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